The Hallmark holiday Valentine’s Day has morphed into an entire week. Leading up to February 14th Rose Day, Propose Day, Hug Day and Kiss Day are among the specially marketed days to mark the week of love.
Despite the non-stop lovey-dovey propaganda, the truth is Valentine’s Day isn’t all romance and roses. The real history of Valentine’s Day is comprised of crime and punishment in the form of a brutal death, and modern Valentine’s Day is filled with as many broken hearts as it is hearts aflame.
Here’s the real deal on Valentine’s Day.
The origin of Valentine’s Day is quite violent. Valentine was an early Christian saint from the 3rd century A.D. who, believing marriage to be a God-given sacrament, officiated marriages in secret, going against the ruling of Emperor Claudius II who had banned marriage. Valentine was soon found out, imprisoned and decapitated, ultimately becoming a martyr and patron saint of love.
The first working Monday of the year being dubbed “Divorce Day” when people make the most inquiries about divorce, as I noted in this post. In fact, the month of January as a whole is a busy month with many people researching their options in regards to divorce.
By February, however, things come to a head. Couples who may have already on the brink of divorce and weighing their options in January wait to see how Valentine’s Day goes and an already strained marriage can reach its breaking point when the romantic holiday doesn’t meet expectations. The media likes to highlight all of the romance and proposals around Valentine’s Day, but the reality is February is the busiest month of the year for divorce filings, with an increase of nearly 20% from the average month. Divorce lawyers see more growth on Valentine’s Day than any other industry, including florists and close to a 40% spike for those seeking referrals for a divorce lawyer on the day after Valentine’s Day.
I don’t say all of this to discourage love. To love and be loved is beautiful. My point is to remind those who are stressed and distressed about Valentine’s Day because they aren’t romantically involved to not believe that hype and that it’s truly not all hearts and flowers. Instead, I encourage you to focus on the other special days that have evolved around Valentine’s Day, such as Galentine’s Day and Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D.), and to read my tips for getting through Valentine’s Day when you’re divorced.