Several years ago I became familiar with the concept of choosing a focus word for the year, and was intrigued by the idea. In 2014, just days after learning of my ex-husband’s adultery, I tried using rebuild as my word, but as we know, timing is everything.


And it most certainly wasn’t the time to focus on rebuilding, since my life as I knew it was in the process of being dismantled and demolished. The process was long and brutal and I have spent the better part of 3 years shell-shocked and catatonic over the events that rocked my world. In the end, I did not choose a focus word that year, it was more like a word chose me. That word was survival, and it carried over into 2015 as well.

In 2016, I began to entertain the idea of a focus word again, and the word I chose, or more accurately, the word that chose me was NEW.

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:19

The divorce was finalized and the marital house sold at the end of 2015, and in 2016 I entered into a new season of my life, complete with a new address and a new name (well, it’s my maiden name, so maybe renewed is more like it).

The word that chose me in 2017 was focus. Concentration eluded me for the past several years when all I could think about was the betrayal and getting through the divorce. I quit my book club and canceled subscriptions to magazines I used to look forward to receiving because I couldn’t quiet my mind enough to read anything.

So now that I’ve survived, being made new, am focused,

the word for 2018 is RESTORE.

The definition of restore is:

1. to give back, return

2: to put or bring back into existence or use

3: to bring back to or put back into a former or original state



Psalms 23 is a scripture that has been a balm for my soul throughout this whole journey, with different verses bringing more relief than others at certain times. In this season it’s this verse.


This is my prayer as I start 2018:

Heavenly Father,

I thank you for rescuing, and for helping me to focus on the new thing You are doing in my life.

Lord, I ask that this year You restore my soul:

give back my JOY.

bring back my TRUST

put my HEART back to its original state; whole and open, ready to give and receive love.