After months of anticipation, the royal wedding of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle has taken place, further enchanting the world with their fairytale love story. I watched the wedding, just as I watched the wedding of Prince William and Kate Middleton, and (at the risk of totally dating myself, here) Prince Charles and Diana. While I oohed and aahed at the fashionable aristocrats and celebs who attended the wedding, and sighed and smiled as the princess bride made her appearance and floated down the aisle to greet her prince, I also had several “a-ha” moments.
Here are the five lessons I learned while watching the royal wedding:
1. Second Chances
We all know the story by now: Prince Harry meets the beautiful Meghan, and they fall head over heels in love with each other. Thing is, she’s divorced, and we know that society often – and the church even more often – tries to throw the whole divorcee away. There’s also the fact that after a divorce many people see themselves as damaged goods, or that there are no prospects for relationships, and give up on love. Meghan didn’t give up on love, and now she’s married to a prince.
And while you likely won’t end up with royalty, when the time is right, you can get another shot at love with a prince of a man who will sweep you off your feet and love, honor and cherish you like you deserve.
The latter glory of this house will be greater than the former – Haggai 2:9
2. Know Who You Are
It is so important that you know who you are. I will be the first to admit that I completely lost myself in marriage, and 3 years out, I’m still working on finding myself and reclaiming my identity. The thing that really stands out to me about Meghan is that she seems to be very confident in who she is. While others have tried to label and define her – is she black, is she white, is she a scheming actress who’s had sights on Prince Harry since she was a teen – she has always seemed sure of who she is, and it shone through during the wedding.
Meghan identifies as biracial, while still acknowledging her Black heritage and culture, which was beautifully weaved throughout the ceremony, with an address by the presiding bishop of the American Episcopal Church and its first African-American leader, Rev. Michael Curry, songs performed by a gospel choir and a solo by a cellist was the first Black musician to win the BBC Young Musician of the Year award.
Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart. Jeremiah 1:5
3. Rejection is protection
The family of the Duchess of Sussex has been behaving badly since the royal engagement was announced. Meghan’s siblings, from whom she’s long been estranged, have spent the past several months attempting to dim her sparkle while drawing attention to themselves. Meanwhile, it was announced just days before her wedding that her father, who seemed to not be very present in life in recent years, would not attend the wedding.
As sad as this is, in the end, it was probably best that the loose-canon, attention-seeking siblings were not there to cause embarrassment and upset and that the focus was on the royal couple and the those who helped make the royal wedding so memorable.
Hopefully, in time the wounds can be healed and those relationships reconciled, but for now, it looks like in this instance rejection was protection.
You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. Gen 50:20
After her divorce, Meghan was out there doing her. BECOMING who she was meant to be. Meghan continued to focus on her career and used her celebrity status to further her charity work. Just like Rachel (which, by the way, is Meghan’s real name) and Ruth in the Bible, Meghan was busy pursuing her purpose, which further expounds on the earlier lesson of knowing who you are.
In fact, it was this focus on charity work that is said to have helped solidify Meghan and Prince Harry’s relationship, since he is also very passionate about philanthropic endeavors. The couple is so committed to their charitable work, that they asked that in lieu of wedding gifts, donations be given to several charities that they selected.
Perhaps this the moment for which you were created. Esther 4:14
5. Love Wins
Despite a divorce, the family discord, the not-so-subtle racism, love prevailed. Love is the thing. It is what we are commanded to do; to love God first and above all, then to love others and ourselves. (Matthew 22:37)
Rev. Michael Curry gave a rousing sermon during the wedding, which, summed up is, “Love God, love your neighbor, and while you’re at it love yourself”.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:7
Congratulations To The Duke & Duchess of Sussex, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.